That scale slides around every day. And 'being surprised' and 'being happy' are very different things also.
I'd prefer to have hard limits. No collecting any info from my computer about me that aren't explicit in the interaction itself (asking for email is ok; scraping installed apps while doing that to gauge my interests is not)
“Reasonable person” tests are pretty common and well-understood in general. One of the reasons that the GDPR in particular avoids being overly prescriptive about how to meet its requirements is to avoid situations where it becomes inapplicable or obsolete due to changes in technology or habits.
It's a valid concern, but I don't think the line is as muddy as it seems at first glance: would I expect a Pyongyang hotel room to be bugged? No. But I also would not assume that it's not. With this construction you get two kinds of being surprised, with one taking all the variability derived from suspicions and the like while the other should remain quite stable. Just like most people were simultaneously surprised and not surprised at all by the Snowden revelations.
Obviously one would have to explicitly exclude from the "reasonable" test the kind of surprise that was not triggered by Snowden, because otherwise all our greatest fears would become legal by definition.
I'd prefer to have hard limits. No collecting any info from my computer about me that aren't explicit in the interaction itself (asking for email is ok; scraping installed apps while doing that to gauge my interests is not)